Why Share Our Story
It can be very lonely and difficult as a parent supporting a child who is possibly Transgendered. I feel that although this article was written some time ago, by Janna Barkin, it gives an informative and heartfelt rendition of a parents story.
For more information and social support, if you are a parent in the UK with a possible Trans child, please contact 'Mermaids' an organisation specifically for transgendered children and parents. Details can be found in the resources area of this website.
When I first started looking for information and support to help me understand my transgender child, only a few online voices and websites provided a parenting perspective. At that time 14 years ago, the word “blog” had just been born, and blogging was not yet a widespread communication phenomenon. But today there are many great resources available online and elsewhere. Sadly, there is also a lot of misinformation, fear, hate and ignorance surrounding this topic.
What it means to be Transgender
This article has been written with a medical understanding of what it is to be Transgendered and is not a personal account. Each individuals personal understanding of being Transgendered will be different. However, this does not invalidate their opinion; but only when you have experienced living with Gender Dysphoria can you truly appreciate the complexity of the condition.
When a child is born, a doctor says, "It’s a boy" or "It’s a girl." Assigning someone's sex is based on biology -- chromosomes, anatomy, and hormones. But a person's gender -- the inner sense of being male, female, or both -- doesn't always match that sex. Transgender people say they were assigned a sex that isn’t true to who they are.
Under a dozen people in the UK can carry out vaginoplasty or phalloplasty operations – and attracting new talent is tough
The problem, according to Phil Thomas, is this: there are simply not enough people in Britain who know how to make a vagina.
“We need more surgeons,” the urologist said from the private Nuffield hospital in Brighton. “In March I received 24 new referral letters. Multiply that by 12 and you can see what the issue is.
“The volume that we need to do to meet the demand is just going through the roof and NHS England are not keeping up.”
Why a person feels male when biologically female, or vice versa, is still unclear. But scientists are working to solve the puzzle
Few questions in science are as fraught as those around gender. At worst, the politics deters researchers and funders, and leaves people needed to take part in studies feeling wary. As a result, most of the answers science has provided are on the less contentious basics: how girls are born girls, and boys are born boys. Why a person feels male when they are biologically female, or the other way around, for now remains uncertain.